Happy International Women’s Month!

I am still fascinated by the fact that we are in March (what?) already! This is my second year celebrating Women’s Day and Month so you can imagine my shock when I found out it has been celebrated since the early 1990’s.

I am ecstatic about the change I see every day. We are not where we should be, but the outpouring for International Women’s Day (IWD) this year was overflowing. I was super happy!


As an avid blog reader and commenter, I have been blessed (yes, blessed) to have followed these women over a few years and their content creation, thoughts on life, consistency and overall being has been soothing to my soul.


These women are whom you’d call your ‘average girls’; relatable and down-to-earth. From a lawyer to medical doctors, a full-time content creator and a Business/ Communications Manager, they have given me real-time proof to back up the seeming cliché saying, ‘You can do whatever you dream’, and I am here for that, always.

Ps. All characters in BLUE are clickable.

Read More »


LIFE RECENTLY || Living Six Months In Delta State

Hey Tribe,

If you read this post or follow me on Instagram, then you would know that I am currently living and working in Agbor, Delta State. It has been exactly six months since I came here, and… It. Has. Been. Real! I still do not understand where the time went, but here we are.

I wasn’t quite sure what format to utilize in explaining how life has been so far, so I decided to wing it.

Shall we?Read More »


One of my more interesting memories from University was one of my preceptors in LUTH during my 400 Level SIWES (synonymous to student internship) asked me, in all seriousness, whether I had narcolepsy (Dictionary definition- sudden and uncontrollable attacks of deep sleep, sometimes accompanied by paralysis and hallucinations). Basically, we were expected to work 8am- 4pm but I got there late because most times, I would wake up late and I would still always sleep anyhow during work. Obviously, he was exaggerating but sleep is my absolute favourite hobby.

I remember in final year of secondary school, telling my friends that in University, I would never have my hair out and I would always have either a weave or braids on. Ha, what a joke! I ended up being the girl who cut her hair and stopped having weaves sewn in all together (PS. I will never have a sew-in in my life ever again!). I really thought I would be a make-up maverick, but till today, I still don’t know how to ‘draw’ my eyebrows.

I cannot believe that it has been a whole year since my convocation ceremony! Where did the time go?

There is so much hope and expectation that comes with new life phases. Prior to beginning, we plan what we want to happen including how and when they would happen.

I got in University with so many expectations, and I am both happy and sad that I did not get all I wanted. There are some things I really do wish I knew prior to this post- Secondary school experience. Gosh, I am old now (I say this a lot, I know). I cannot believe I am talking about University in retrospect, but then, here are five greater lessons I learnt from years of hardwork, fun and perseverance. Here, we go:

Read More »

5 (+1) Free Apps That Will Ultimately Improve Your Life.

Hey Tribe!

I know that the people who know me would have read the title of this post, and would have rolled their eyes. Why?

Just because I literally suck at ‘using’ my phone. I am that extremely annoying person that constantly leaves her phone at home and replies WhatsApp messages after three days. I just learnt how to properly use Xender three months ago. Yes, I am that girl, and no, I am not proud to be that person. They would be wondering what I think I know about phones or technology in general.

However, when I do use my phone, I spend A LOT of time on Instagram, which personally does not profit much, except the fact that I admire the people and stories I witness there. It would be nice to actually use my phone for something that would productive for ME, instead of just constantly watching others be productive.

This is where this post comes in handy. These apps are amazing and have been thoroughly helpful in my everyday life.

Read More »

2018: The Year We Finally Give Up!

Hey Tribe,

It’s 2018… but you already know that.

 So maybe you’re like me, and you told yourself that you would make 2018 YOUR year but then you (we) find yourself awake in the morning and realize that two weeks have gone, and you have no real goals, no movement, no change.

You (like me) may have read endless articles about ‘how to make 2018 the best year ever’ or even posts about other people’s goals, and thought yes, my time has come! 2018 we will ‘slay’ but that isn’t quite happening?

Welcome to the club. Get your self-acquainted with the rest of us.

Now that we’re all done, can we FINALLY JUST GIVE UP?Read More »


Hey Tribe,
I am always so excited about the festive season. Everyone is happy, and there is always something to celebrate and people are always willing to spend. One of my fond memories of my younger years is the money given when we’d go to a family member or friend’s house during this period. Too bad I am too old for this, in fact, I have become the ‘aunty’. I lived for those moments, even though our parents always ‘borrowed’ the money, and we never physically saw them again.

Good times, good times!

2016 was something. 2017 was been something else…

Read More »

EZE NWANYI || A Brief Interview With Folayemi Agusto Of Eat.Drink.Lagos

Hey Tribe,

In true Nigerian fashion, Compliments of the season, my people!

To this little family who keep supporting A BU M DESIRE despite her inconsistency and randomness, God bless you all.

I like food, a lot. I know my less than 50kg body does not show that, but I really do. I really believe that is my major reason for reading Eat.Drink.Lagos. I really thought that I would be the one for everybody, cruising round Lagos, eating and being happy, but uhh, no. I have not gotten there. Someday, though! We must get there.

I literally look forward to the Eat.Drink.Festival every single time, and unfortunately I could not attend this Christmas edition, because, Delta.

Earlier in the year, I was so excited about this blog (still am), and I really wanted to interview young, Power Women doing great things in their fields. In the rush of God knows what, I emailed Eat.Drink.Lagos and requested to interview one half of them, Folayemi Agusto.

She co-owns Eat.Drink Media (Eat.Drink.Festival, Eat.Drink.Lagos and The Eat.Drink.Bot) as well as being the Events and Guests Coordinator At Andela. She has also been featured, alongside Nosa, on CNN’s African Voices. (Did I hear you say Goals? You’re right).

She graduated from The University Of Virginia, with a major in Sociology (Honors) and a minor in French. Her Thesis “Gentrification, Gated Communities and the Spatial Properties of Inequality in Lagos, Nigeria” won the Distinguished Major Thesis Award for the best  Distinguished Major paper written in her year.

We get to know a bit more about the person behind the brand!Read More »