Hey Tribe,
I am always so excited about the festive season. Everyone is happy, and there is always something to celebrate and people are always willing to spend. One of my fond memories of my younger years is the money given when we’d go to a family member or friend’s house during this period. Too bad I am too old for this, in fact, I have become the ‘aunty’. I lived for those moments, even though our parents always ‘borrowed’ the money, and we never physically saw them again.

Good times, good times!

2016 was something. 2017 was been something else…

Continue reading “THE RECAP || 17 BLESSINGS IN 2017!!”


EZE NWANYI || A Brief Interview With Folayemi Agusto Of Eat.Drink.Lagos

Hey Tribe,

In true Nigerian fashion, Compliments of the season, my people!

To this little family who keep supporting A BU M DESIRE despite her inconsistency and randomness, God bless you all.

I like food, a lot. I know my less than 50kg body does not show that, but I really do. I really believe that is my major reason for reading Eat.Drink.Lagos. I really thought that I would be the one for everybody, cruising round Lagos, eating and being happy, but uhh, no. I have not gotten there. Someday, though! We must get there.

I literally look forward to the Eat.Drink.Festival every single time, and unfortunately I could not attend this Christmas edition, because, Delta.

Earlier in the year, I was so excited about this blog (still am), and I really wanted to interview young, Power Women doing great things in their fields. In the rush of God knows what, I emailed Eat.Drink.Lagos and requested to interview one half of them, Folayemi Agusto.

She co-owns Eat.Drink Media (Eat.Drink.Festival, Eat.Drink.Lagos and The Eat.Drink.Bot) as well as being the Events and Guests Coordinator At Andela. She has also been featured, alongside Nosa, on CNN’s African Voices. (Did I hear you say Goals? You’re right).

She graduated from The University Of Virginia, with a major in Sociology (Honors) and a minor in French. Her Thesis “Gentrification, Gated Communities and the Spatial Properties of Inequality in Lagos, Nigeria” won the Distinguished Major Thesis Award for the best  Distinguished Major paper written in her year.

We get to know a bit more about the person behind the brand! Continue reading “EZE NWANYI || A Brief Interview With Folayemi Agusto Of Eat.Drink.Lagos”

THIS IS IT! | | 3 + 1 Important Marital Lessons from Tee and Dede.

Hey Tribe,

How’s the week going?

Mine has been super stressful. The last time I had this much stress was probably during the completion of my final year project last year. Oh dear Lord, it was quite a time!

It’s amazing how things that seem like they would never ever end do that… End!

I have been thinking about writing this for so long for three major reasons;

I was so in love with these characters.

This was such a beautiful, but relatable story.

Nick Mutuma (Tee) is my husband, full stop (Don’t even argue with me)

I found out about this series through my husband’s Instagram. Now, if you don’t know ‘This Is It’, please go now after reading this, go and watch it.

Quick Synopsis

Dede (23) and Tee (26) are a young couple who are newlyweds, and we go through their daily struggles with life and all its shenanigans. From work to difficulty in procreation and friendships, we get to see a brief view of what the first year of marriage could entail.

Personally, I aspire to marriage (eventually)… more on this later. and like I said before, I love Love!

Now, I like to learn and take something positive from my daily activities, and after using my own hard-earned data on YouTube for that long, I had to learn something.

I’m even at the age where Dede got married and my classmates are getting engaged and married upandan. It’s time to prepare for the future.😂 Continue reading “THIS IS IT! | | 3 + 1 Important Marital Lessons from Tee and Dede.”


Hey Tribe,

I guess it is safe to say, at this point, that I am such a random somebody. Today, I am talking about the importance of The Girl Child. Tomorrow, I am here dreaming about people that don’t even know I exist.

Hope you’ve had a good BAAD week! Be prepared, you’ll see this word a lot here.

Weddings in Nigeria have a life of their own, the Bella Naija Weddings account has over 2.7 millon Instagram followers! There are tons of other ‘wedding’ accounts, pre-wedding photos accounts, aso-ebi accounts among others. It’s a culture on its own.

Let us just take a few minutes…


Continue reading “I WANT TO BE VERY BAAD… OR MAYBE NOT?”


You know when you’re just tired of people… that was my mood when I was writing this.
It’s time tot tell each other the truth, no shade, just straight to the point!
‘What’s the point?’ You ask? Well, it would save us all a lot of unnecessary mental stress, and just make the world slightly easier to deal with if people were consciously nicer to others.
Here are some things that irk me, and I am so sure I am not alone in this. Ooh, please read, comment and share too.

Hey Tribe,

Welcome (back)! How’s it going? Work has been on another level of stress, but sebi na me say I wan work? I must work the work!

I am not big on Family Guy, but when I do come across it a couple of times, I find it to be very interesting (although it could be a mite inappropriate). I remember the dad (Peter Griffin) always saying, ‘You know what really grinds my gears…’ to describe what irks him.

I don’t think of myself as very tolerant of the human excesses, but truthfully, I think I try (I know that was a lame attempt at being diplomatic). There are some things that I can stand but would viscerally annoy other people.

For example, my sister Favour (who deals in Great quality hair!) cannot stand people who do not retain quiet while eating. Any mouth opening, loud chewing totally puts her off and even when I feel like I should get a Nobel Prize for great eating etiquette, she still says, ‘Desire, please could you stop making noises with your mouth?’ and sometimes, I wonder what the problem is when I am doing my best. Continue reading “Ndu Desire || WHAT REALLY, TRULY GRINDS MY GEARS”

Three Things Your Young Pharmacist Does Not Want You To Know.

Hey Tribe,

I am still trying to get used to children greeting me as I walk past them. It even moves me more when they add ‘Aunty’ to it. The one that even slays me is when the mothers of my paediatric patients call me ‘Ma’, I actually L..O..L, and give them the ‘Ma’ back with greater intensity.

I don’t know if it is because of my relatively small size or just because I am new to this adulting something.

Sometimes I still look at myself and think, ‘Oh Desire, you’re a pharmacist’ and I laugh at myself. Just the mere thought that people both young and old think I know what I am doing all the time is so cute, really.

I now talk to my parents about their health with such seriousness and I realize now how a license (and well, five years of training) could truly change things quite swiftly.

All of a sudden you can have a proper job, advice people assertively, have a ‘title’ imprinted on your clinical coat and whatnot, so it does have its perks.

Now, we would like to have all things pertaining to knowledge sorted and settled once we throw our caps in the air (which I never got to do, because guess who was late to her convocation?), but it doesn’t quite happen like that.

I cannot quite speak for other professions, as I have not done any research on this, but I can confidently speak on mine from experience and that of my juvenile (in the profession) colleagues.

I do know that as a budding pharmacist, there are certain things  that may be best left unknown and these are some of them; Continue reading “Three Things Your Young Pharmacist Does Not Want You To Know.”

BOOK REVIEW|| ‘Are We The Turning Point Generation?’ by Chude Jideonwo

Hey Tribe,

How are you doing? How are you truly doing?

Honestly, I wonder what answers we actually expect when we throw these questions out there into the universe. Wouldn’t it be rather interesting if people actually answered these questions?

Oh, and it’s a new month. Happy New Month! I am just super thankful because I am done with the first quarter of my internship!! Still a long way to go, but thankful still.

Did you read last week’s post? If you have not, then get over here! You just might need it (Or know someone who does).

I had always thought about including book reviews here, but I have been trying to streamline the purpose and content of this space, so it may or may not be a constant moving forward.

However, this book changed me.

This is not a hackneyed statement for me at all. I did not expect the depth of influence it would have on me.

Continue reading “BOOK REVIEW|| ‘Are We The Turning Point Generation?’ by Chude Jideonwo”